On Social Media
Social media has become a big part of everybody’s life and that is completely understandable, as it supposedly brings closer to us people who can be even miles away. Especially during quarantine, social media gained even more popularity, as it provided that social connection all of us were longing for every single day. But is social media truly offering us that?
The answer is obviously relative, as social media is a term that covers a wide range of different apps. Some of them can be stimulating and engaging, as they provide inspiration for those looking for it, as well as discussions or links to more serious pieces of information (such as articles, websites, videos etc). However, most can be destructive to our mental health to some extent, as they manipulate us into being loyal users for the rest of our lives, giving us the FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and an addictive rush of adrenaline every time somebody likes our photo or replies to our story.
These apps seem innocent from the outside, as they claim to help one communicate more efficiently and creatively with their friends using pictures, but in reality this just becomes a merely superficial way of communication that eventually becomes addictive. This addiction includes not only continuously taking pictures in order for others to see how interesting our life is, but also the constant need to refresh a feed in order to see what everybody else is doing. The sense of privacy begins to dissolve in a world where everybody apparently wants to see and to be seen. Why do we all crave for others’ approval and attention? How can we accept ourselves and our lives as they are, when all we do is post everything in order for it to be judged by the others? We get sad when others react negatively or, funnier, when they don’t react at all, and get extremely happy when we get some automatic reaction emoji on our story. Who cares about what others think about us? Isn’t it more important to live in the moment and treasure the important times without having the need to let others know immediately about it?
Showing off on social media is something that most of us do. People only post the highlights of their lives, making them appear even better than they actually are. Nobody posts the breakups, the failures, the no makeup and no filter selfies (as they are so rare), the fights and the mental breakdowns. We are all taught that everybody is happy, therefore when we get sad, as we normally do at times, we feel alone and different from the others; opening our social apps only reinforces these feelings. We are all taught to lie and put on a mask just so people would accept us, when in reality people are just like us, searching for somebody to relate to when they’re feeling down. We are all taught that beauty has standards, acne should be covered up, hair should be done, the outfit has to look ‘insta worthy’, the way we pose should be ‘on point’ or ‘badass’ and we have to look our best in order to gain likes from some people who may mean nothing to us. One like does not even mean real appreciation, as most people only spend 0.2 seconds to hit the like button, most not even looking at the picture in detail. Yes, not looking in detail at a picture we spent one hour taking and editing.
Therefore, it becomes clear that using social media for the sake of showing off and constantly checking on others’ lives is wrong. However, there are ways to use it that can prove to be more helpful for one’s life, or even meaningful. For instance, personal branding can be important for certain categories of people that use it as a business tool; being an inspiration for the others can also be a healthy way of using these social apps, as sharing and encouraging creativity can bring people closer to our hearts.
In conclusion, social media can be very helpful for us all, if used correctly, intentionally and for the right reasons. It might be a tool to connect with the others, but in general we should strive for deeper connections than what social media can offer us, connections such as meetings and dates in person, phone calls, or even texting, to some extent. Connecting with people around us can be highly beneficial for our mental health; however, social media can trick us into having a superficial experience that we regard as connection. Although it’s hard to give up a system that has taken us years to build (that being reinforced by the apps’ ways to manipulate us into keeping them for the sake of not losing our progress), it is worth making the effort in order to begin living an intentional, beautiful, meaningful life.